If we have not made a desired goal a priority, how do we expect to achieve that goal in a desired time? We will always be able to think of reasons not to start, continue, or finish a project. We all have “life issues.” And, we all have 24 hours in a day.
I am not trying to undervalue what someone is going through. In fact as a coach, mentor, and a human being, I aim to understand what someone is going through and offer strategies to help them overcome perceived barriers.
Life is definitely a balancing act and a chance to tap into your unlimited creativity.
If you are truly sorry for your behavior, then you will try not to do it anymore…whether it is:
1. Calling someone outside of his or her name….
2. Raising your voice at someone
3. Being late for an event that is important to someone else
4. Forgetting a birthday or anniversary and no known decrease in mental function
5. Turning in your homework past the deadline
6. Saying you were going to do something and you did not
7. Missing a scheduled call to discuss something
8. Hitting someone
9. Returning something you borrowed at a much later date or not at all
Mother held us accountable when we would apologize for our behavior. “Try your best not to do it again” is what our mother would say. Saying you are sorry should mean something. Words meant something, but your actions meant more.
Getting the right amount and quality of foods, rest, and physical activity throughout your day and week are not fads. Adequate rest, meal planning, and physical activity must be a lifestyle. Self-control, perseverance, and time management are not only for a particular portion of our life (job, artistry such as drawing, singing, parenthood, etc) or when a certain event will take place (trip to The Bahamas, or in my case, a trip to Las Vegas) or when you turn a certain age. Self-control, perseverance, and time management must be what we embody regardless of life circumstances. Who we are is reflected in what we say and do.
As a coach/mentor/nurse, if I am going to encourage self-awareness, self-control, perseverance, and time management, I must do my best to embody these behaviors.
We all fall short, at some point in our lives, in perfecting discipline and consistent behaviors, yet it is not about quitting; we must push forward. It is not about blaming yourself or others; it is more about learning and developing better strategies to achieve our goals.
Let’s review some quotes from Napoleon Hill, one of the great authors during the Depression Era, who published Think & Grow Rich in 1937.
” Remember, too, that all who succeed in life get off to a bad start, and pass through many heartbreaking struggles before they arrive. The turning point in the lives of those who succeed usually comes at some moment of crisis, through which they are introduced to their “other selves.” Napoleon Hill, Think and Grow Rich.
“Before success comes in any man’s life, he is sure to meet with much temporary defeat, and perhaps, some failure. When defeat overtakes a man, the easiest and most logical thing to do is to quit. That is exactly what the majority of men do. More than five hundred of the most successful men this country ever known told the author their greatest success came just one step beyond the point at which defeat had overtaken them.”
We have different scenarios, yet, the same philosophy applies. Do not give up on yourself. Keep moving forward.
Heal within.. within yourself, within families, communities, states, countries and nations. There is enough to go around.
Set the stage. Own your life. Be present. We are phenomenally put together..breathing, moving form of creation.