If I do not address disrespectful behaviors while our children are young, then I enable them to disrespect myself and others. The moment we let down our guard is the moment our child will think it is okay. I have learned to not assume that behavior will end in one day. I must be consistent in my actions and words to show them actions that edifies and destroys.
Parenting is a calling, and daily, we need to be there for our children. Corrupt behaviors do not start in adulthood. Often, we deal with adult behaviors that started in childhood. No parent is exempt, and every parent has tests. These tests are to make us a better person, and therefore, a better parent. We must have and show:
compassion (children need direction and purpose grounded in principles that help instead of hurting others)
humility (every one has tests to meet and hopefully transcend)
love (discipline according to our heart and not out of unhealed emotions)
patience (parenting is a lifelong endeavor)
understanding (we are all on a journey and experience life lessons).
Of course, there are more virtues that empower and strengthen us to meet and transcend our experiences.
Make this Life great and your Legacy, too! The generations to come depend on you.
Sometimes, we may think our parents are being mean when they tell us the truth. Our mom, a single mom, knew the extent of her teaching. She did not force her life’s principles on us; she left it to us, many times, to choose the best route or solution for an issue.
I inform our children that I cannot make all of your life choices. “I can help you build your foundation and give you the resources and some tools to help you along the way.”
I let our children know that I am here for them, and I do not mind sharing my knowledge and wisdom. For the age appropriate situations, though, I encourage our children to weight their options, assess advantages and disadvantages, and be decisive.
We must help our children to assess the reasons behind their choices. By helping our children to understand their core and their state of emotions and feelings, we can help empower them to be their best. I did not write to push them….but to help them from the inside out.
If we do not help our children to see the power in choices and the possible consequences, who will?
How are you helping your children learn the power of choices?
Our circumstances do not dictate how we treat our children and others. We make a bold choice to act in love, peace, and understanding. We allow our children to see that life is a journey and lessons will be learned, we apologize quickly for our lessons learned, and help our children to see that they have a reason for being here.
Parenting is a calling & a journey to reach our highest self and help children to do the same; therefore, parenting is a win-win experience. Each day that we have breath, God entrusts us to do what is right regardless of our circumstances and how we feel.
Can you imagine the hard work that goes into making a brain, heart, organs, and tissues and embodying specific gifts and talents? God is a master storyteller. Our experiences are not in vain. You have the power to meet & transcend your life experiences.
If we are stupid, never amount to anything, a failure, and other false statements, then our Creator is stupid and without potential, as well. For, are we not made in God’s image (Genesis 1:26)?
May you know how powerful you are and stand in your power.
Make this life great—one person & one family at a time,
Commit to the Lord whatever you do, and He will establish your plans (Proverbs 16: 3).
Jesus said “Let the little children come to me, and do not hinder them. For the kingdom of heaven belongs such as these” (Matthew 19:14).
What did you do today or within the last week to put yourself closer to achieving your dreams?
Some people have:
Quit their day job,
Reduced their work hours,
Left a relationship that was not working,
Started using a calendar to jot down their goals for each day
Started using a weekly to-do-list
Searched internet and newspapers possible jobs to finance their dream career
Started back writing, rapping, singing, dancing, drawing, etc.
Put up a vision board to help keep them focused and determined
What have you done this week or even today to commit to your success?
Will 2017 be just another year you made goals for yourself with no change in lifestyle one year, two years, or 20 years from now?
A couple of goals I have this year are to read at least 1 book a week and to write every day from 5-6 A.M. I keep going back to writing, and I want to explore the writer in me.
We can change how we act with how we think. Before you know it, you are doing what you thought was difficult and inconceivable.
Give yourself a chance to be you. Be true to who you are.
If the song/ lyrics, whether Blues, Country, R&B, rap, etc spoke to my spirit, it became my favorite song. The gift to sing, to speak to the soul and spirit of others is a wonderful and awe-inspiring gift. It is not about the messenger; it’s about the message.
Tim Mgraw’s song “Live like you were dying” came to me after doing some self-reflection journaling this am.
You never know when something or someone may no longer be available. I am trying to live life with purpose and intention and not just assume things will work out.