Posted in purpose

Is Parenting a Calling?

If I do not address disrespectful behaviors while our children are young, then I enable them to disrespect myself and others. The moment we let down our guard is the moment our child will think it is okay. I have learned to not assume that behavior will end in one day. I must be consistent in my actions and words to show them actions that edifies and destroys.

Parenting is a calling, and daily, we need to be there for our children. Corrupt behaviors do not start in adulthood. Often, we deal with adult behaviors that started in childhood. No parent is exempt, and every parent has tests. These tests are to make us a better person, and therefore, a better parent. We must have and show:

compassion (children need direction and purpose grounded in principles that help instead of hurting others)

humility (every one has tests to meet and hopefully transcend)

love (discipline according to our heart and not out of unhealed emotions)

patience (parenting is a lifelong endeavor)

understanding (we are all on a journey and experience life lessons).

Of course, there are more virtues that empower and strengthen us to meet and transcend our experiences.

Make this Life great and your Legacy, too! The generations to come depend on you.

Sincerely,

Timika

Posted in Children and parenting, fatherhood, Motherhood, purpose

Our Circumstances Do Not Define Us

Good morning Spiritual Beings!

Our circumstances do not dictate how we treat our children and others. We make a bold choice to act in love, peace, and understanding. We allow our children to see that life is a journey and lessons will be learned, we apologize quickly for our lessons learned, and help our children to see that they have a reason for being here.

Parenting is a calling & a journey to reach our highest self and help children to do the same; therefore, parenting is a win-win experience. Each day that we have breath, God entrusts us to do what is right regardless of our circumstances and how we feel.

Can you imagine the hard work that goes into making a brain, heart, organs, and tissues and embodying specific gifts and talents? God is a master storyteller. Our experiences are not in vain. You have the power to meet & transcend your life experiences.

If we are stupid, never amount to anything, a failure, and other false statements, then our Creator is stupid and without potential, as well. For, are we not made in God’s image (Genesis 1:26)?

May you know how powerful you are and stand in your power.

Make this life great—one person & one family at a time,

Commit to the Lord whatever you do, and He will establish your plans (Proverbs 16: 3).

Jesus said “Let the little children come to me, and do not hinder them. For the kingdom of heaven belongs such as these” (Matthew 19:14).

Timika

Posted in Diabetes Management, personal development

The decision only you can make

If we have not made a desired goal a priority, how do we expect to achieve that goal in a desired time? We will always be able to think of reasons not to start, continue, or finish a project. We all have “life issues.”  And, we all have 24 hours in a day.

I am not trying to undervalue what someone is going through. In fact as a coach, mentor, and a human being, I aim to understand what someone is going through and offer strategies to help them overcome perceived barriers.
Life is definitely a balancing act and a chance to tap into your unlimited creativity.

Heal within,

Timika

Posted in Bullying, personal development

Lesson 8: Don’t just be sorry..

If you are truly sorry for your behavior, then you will try not to do it anymore…whether it is:

1. Calling someone outside of his or her name….
2. Raising your voice at someone
3. Being late for an event that is important to someone else
4. Forgetting a birthday or anniversary and no known decrease in mental function
5. Turning in your homework past the deadline
6. Saying you were going to do something and you did not
7. Missing a scheduled call to discuss something
8. Hitting someone 
9. Returning something you borrowed at a much later date or not at all
10. Lying

Mother held us accountable when we would apologize for our behavior. “Try your best not to do it again” is what our mother would say. Saying you are sorry should mean something. Words meant something, but your actions meant more.

Timika

Posted in personal development

It is so easy to get caught up…Life can become such a blur

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Timika’s morning pep talk.

You have set goals. You planned. You were doing well until you saw and made a reason (or excuse) for you to stop–to stay up late with others,  to be entertained by T.V. and/or social media, to go to sleep without completing your goals, or not getting up at the time you said you would work on your project. You opted to do something “easier” or “more fun”. You opted to go to sleep.

You are not balancing your energy and time to be more effective and efficient. Your goals are starting to look like a blur, and you wonder do you have it in you to achieve your goals/dreams.

Life is controlling you, instead of you controlling your life.

Now, you are feeling guilty and thinking of stopping or not pursuing your goals.

Do you give up, or do you push forward?

How do you push forward?

You are alive, right? Do you have the mental and physical faculties to do whatever it is you want to do? If the answer is yes, then, it is not too late to change.

Condition yourself to think and believe that each day brings new opportunities and a chance for you to revise your strategy so that you may achieve your goals.

1. Reassess your goals. Are you doing it for you or someone else? What is your intention? What is the end result that you seek? Know that others have their own journey. Are you giving it your best try? How disciplined are you?

Trust and believe in yourself to accomplish what you said you would. Break your goal down into small parts. Use a calendar or accountability and reminder system.

2. Recommit to yourself and your goals regardless of what others are doing.
You will have to answer yourself. Do you want to reminisce about your successes and failures (to say at least you tried) or regret you did not live your life accordingly? Do you want to face the fact that you gave up and never saw how far your gifts and talents could take you?

Your commitment has to be more than just words.

3. Assess your strategy, and be honest. Do you have the right or effective strategy? Do you have gaps in your day that you could be more effective? Is your strategy realistic and too broad? Are you trying to do too many things at once?

4. Do it now. Don’t wait until the “right time”. It will more than likely never be the “right time”. You have to make time, Timika.

This is your mission. This is your journey.

Heal within. Your results will be your barometer.

Discipline=Freedom

Timika