Posted in Transformation

It is Monday!


For many people, including myself, Mondays were not my best days. It was hard to get up early on a Monday after a relaxing and fulfilling two days off from work. I wanted the weekend back.  I did not want to think about work, and I wanted to relax a bit more, spend time with family, and work on projects. 

It is still sometimes hard to get out of bed on Mondays, but I am feeling more excited these days about my life- my journey. Each day is a day to be grateful for , and I can still spend quality time with family, do things for myself, and relax a bit on Mondays and throughout the week. I just need to pace myself throughout the day and fit what is most important to me. I am grateful to have a job and grateful to pursue the life of an entrepreneur.  

Life doesn’t stop because I work on Mondays. I will continue to feel inspired by life and living my best life.
Timika

Posted in mother's wisdom

Mondays: Inspired by mom

“Appreciation is a wonderful thing. It makes what is excellent in others belong to us as well.”
Voltaire

I never wanted an illness or death to be the motivation for me to appreciate loved ones or do the things I know I should do. I knew at a very young age that we had a great mother.  Regardless of what she had been through, she chose to be there for her children in every way that she could.  After working long hours at a local store or any job that she had, she would make time to be present for events.  She would be there to support my brother at home basketball games. She would take us to lunch before working an 8 hour plus shift.  We would routinely go shopping (at Ventures or Grandpa’s) and even walk around Cahokia Mounds on Sundays.  I can still taste the sub sandwiches we used to get at Grandpa’s.

Our mother instinctively knew the importance of structure and routine.  Mother rarely made excuses, and she expected the same from her children. She did what she had to do to make sure we had a roof over our head, shoes on our feet, food to eat, clothes to wear, and beds to sleep in.

Mother took it upon herself to leave an unhealthy marriage for something better.  She knew that if she did not leave her current situation that something bad was going to happen. She would either be in jail or no longer around to care for us.  She wanted more, and although she did not know what the future held, she made a change.  She took a step into the unknown.

Take the first step in faith.  You don’t have to see the whole staircase, just take the first step- Martin Luther King

She was never shy about telling us her story; she wanted us to learn from her life lessons and pursue the life that we were meant to have.  She wanted us to have a better life.

I have tried to keep her life principles close to heart.  I have often said that it is not so much about the number of parents in the home, but more about the quality of parenting.  You can grow up in a home with the father or mother being physically there, but emotionally and socially absent.

She was never religious, and encouraged us to care more about the heart of a man than the religion or church someone belonged to. Although she kept a bible close, we never felt like she preached to us.  She was honest and told the truth, which was natural to her.  It was not about what was pleasing to our ears: her talks were meant to feed our Soul. 

Mother believes that we should do what we can to help others have a better life.  We must not continue the same cycle of negative behavior.  What good is that?

“I may have not had it, but I want my grandkids to have it”-Thelma Jones

My Monday blog posts will be dedicated to my mother.  I will share her life lessons and hope that I will continue to educate, empower, inspire, and positively transform my life and the life of others.

As always, please feel free to share your thoughts, including your life lessons.

Timika

Posted in personal development, Transformation

Maddening: Teachable moments

Maddening

I used to find it very irritating or maddening to have to wait on a train, especially when it would sit there, for several minutes, on the track. One day my mother was in the car with me and noticed how impatient I was when we were stopped by a train on the tracks.  I was in a hurry to get somewhere.

My mother encouraged me to be patient, and that there are certain things that I cannot change or control.  My mother said that actions based on impatience can sometimes lead to negative consequences. “There is no reason for getting angry and “bent out of shape” about the train being on the tracks.”, she said.  ” It is best to just sit and wait.”  We talked some, and before I knew it, the train had past.

I have had a lot of experiences beyond trains to help me become a more patient person. However, I will never forget the time when my mother and I were driving home, weeks after our conversation about being patient,  and saw bodies covered by white sheets on both sides of a train track because the driver thought he could beat the train.  You could see the children’s toys scattered all over. I could not believe what I was seeing.  It validated what my mom told me weeks ago.

Even right now, I wonder where would I be had my mother and I not talked about the importance of being patient.

Timika

 

 

Posted in love, Transformation

Treasure: Priceless

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There is no amount of wealth or treasure that can replace the time you have to spend with family and friends. You will only get a day once. There may be 2nd chances, but there will never be another 12/8/2016. Make the most of it by being present for every moment you have with your family and friends.

There is no guarantee that there will be a later. All you have is the moment you are currently in. All you have is the present.

Timika

 

Posted in Relish, Uncategorized

Relish: Unfulfilled dreams

Relish

pleasing others

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I do not relish the fact that some dreams go unfulfilled, some talents/gifts go unnoticed, and some goals go unachieved because of many factors, including, but not limited to:

1. Desiring Social acceptance and avoidance of ridicule more than being your true self-Always wanting to be in the in-crowd and not wanting to veer far from an individual or individuals who have accepted them. When some individuals live this lie, the group has accepted you for who you are portraying to be and not your true self because they do not know who you truly are.

2. Lack of determination to pursue our goals. Some individuals may not feel motivated to pursue their goals because they may believe it’s hard work to go after what they truly want. We do not know unless we try, and when we fail the first time, keep trying. Grow into who you are by doing your part.

3. Low self-efficacy- Some individuals may not feel that they are not capable of great work and belittle the work that they have done. Believe that you are a masterpiece. There is no one like you. We are a great creation. Just pause for a minute and think about your mind and body and how well each part of your body was made to work together. Let go of your expectations and get to know you. Many things were considered silly before they became useful. Look around your house. You can probably find some gadgets. Do not worry so much about the future and have fun being you.

4. Lack of direction or guidance- Some individuals may fear reaching out to others or not sure who to reach out to. Mentors can be found in books, as well. There are some great stories out there about how others found their niche and their journey. You do not have to go searching the country for a mentor.

Keep writing!
Timika

Posted in Bludgeon, Bullying, Diabetes Management, Truth

Bludgeon: Let it go

Bludgeon
When one feels like he needs to force another person to do something, it is more about the person who is forcing or threatening the other person to do something than about the person you are trying to force. If someone really wants to do something, he or she will. For example, I as a Certified Diabetes Educator, I don’t force someone who has been diagnosed with diabetes to check his or her blood sugar. If after all of the assessment and proper education is done,  and that person chooses to not check his or her blood sugar and suffer the possible consequences,  I respect his or her decision.

In my personal and professional life, I have found to always do my part and then let go. My mother taught me that when you have done your part , let go.  Believe it or not, I have seen others accomplish their goals and incorporate positive behaviors in their life after  that person no longer feels forced to do so. People want to be respected and not just told to do something.

Forcing someone to do something he or she doesn’t want to do obviously means that person doesn’t want to  do whatever it is you are asking him or her to do. Maybe instead of forcing, assess the situation, if it is not blatantly obvious why the person does not want to do something, then ask yourself ” am I being reasonable to ask such a thing” and if so, then ask the person why or she doesn’t want to do what’s being asked. Maybe that person is afraid or doesn’t know how.

Is it because of ego that we are trying to force someone to do something?  More than likely…yes.

I do believe people have free will to live their life and are capable of doing so as long as they are able to ( mentally, physically, etc). If someone has issues with low self esteem, self -efficacy or confidence  in his or her abilities, then that person may need time for personal development/ growth

If you feel you have to force someone to do some unreasonable or even reasonable action, know it’s time to back off and check yourself.
Timika

Posted in daily blog, Tiny, Uncategorized

Tiny feet

Tiny

 

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Tiny feet are what I wished for,
As I carefully placed the picture on my vision board,
I visualized a boy and a girl,
that’s all I wanted in this whole world,
to guide love, protect, and teach,
little did I know, back in 2011, it was all within my reach,
I still believe that children are miracles,
Even when I feel like I am going around in circles,
Never did I dream of a life so rich,
to have two pairs of tiny feet which
will always have a place in my heart,
In spirit, we will never part.

Timika