Posted in personal development

It is so easy to get caught up…Life can become such a blur

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Timika’s morning pep talk.

You have set goals. You planned. You were doing well until you saw and made a reason (or excuse) for you to stop–to stay up late with others,  to be entertained by T.V. and/or social media, to go to sleep without completing your goals, or not getting up at the time you said you would work on your project. You opted to do something “easier” or “more fun”. You opted to go to sleep.

You are not balancing your energy and time to be more effective and efficient. Your goals are starting to look like a blur, and you wonder do you have it in you to achieve your goals/dreams.

Life is controlling you, instead of you controlling your life.

Now, you are feeling guilty and thinking of stopping or not pursuing your goals.

Do you give up, or do you push forward?

How do you push forward?

You are alive, right? Do you have the mental and physical faculties to do whatever it is you want to do? If the answer is yes, then, it is not too late to change.

Condition yourself to think and believe that each day brings new opportunities and a chance for you to revise your strategy so that you may achieve your goals.

1. Reassess your goals. Are you doing it for you or someone else? What is your intention? What is the end result that you seek? Know that others have their own journey. Are you giving it your best try? How disciplined are you?

Trust and believe in yourself to accomplish what you said you would. Break your goal down into small parts. Use a calendar or accountability and reminder system.

2. Recommit to yourself and your goals regardless of what others are doing.
You will have to answer yourself. Do you want to reminisce about your successes and failures (to say at least you tried) or regret you did not live your life accordingly? Do you want to face the fact that you gave up and never saw how far your gifts and talents could take you?

Your commitment has to be more than just words.

3. Assess your strategy, and be honest. Do you have the right or effective strategy? Do you have gaps in your day that you could be more effective? Is your strategy realistic and too broad? Are you trying to do too many things at once?

4. Do it now. Don’t wait until the “right time”. It will more than likely never be the “right time”. You have to make time, Timika.

This is your mission. This is your journey.

Heal within. Your results will be your barometer.

Discipline=Freedom

Timika

Posted in Motherhood, Ohio mom, Rearrange, Uncategorized

Rearrange my life to keep my sanity?

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Insanity is doing the same thing over and over again and expecting a different result. Albert Einstein

Intellectually, I knew my life needed a change years ago, and it has been a journey! I used to think that once someone became a mother, “that’s it! Your life is over. You don’t have time for anything else.” I am the one who planted those beliefs and have had to dig them up by the roots and throw them away….

I would hear so many mothers talk about how they did not have time for themselves, and honestly, it should not and does not have to be that way. I know some single mothers who managed to earn a college degree or further their career and still raise their children. I know because I was raised by a single mother. Who says that a mother cannot continue to develop her gifts and talents and enjoy doing things for herself and taking time out to replenish her soul?

Two great quotes by Henry Ford will empower you if you let them:

“Whether you think you can, or you think you can’t–you’re right.”
― Henry Ford

“Anyone who stops learning is old, whether at twenty or eighty. Anyone who keeps learning stays young.”
― Henry Ford

In the past, I tried different techniques to help keep me accountable. I tried printing out and posting a schedule I made out using Cozi Family Organizer http://www.cozi.com/. I know the schedule by heart because I have also written it down multiple times, as well. It’s great to use reminders. I realized, though, that my beliefs needed to be dealt with and challenged.

I can honestly say that a recent vacation helped me to clear my head and truly think about things that are truly important to me. I love my family, and I love myself, too. I concluded that:

1. I am the one in charge of my life….my mother would always tell me that and even today, she finds a way to squeeze the reminder in our conversations.

2. Everything does not have to be done today. I need to prioritize and plan for tomorrow…hopefully, I will see another day.

3. My health-physical, mental, emotion, and spiritual, is important as is everyone else.

4. I need to be organized-I function better and able to make the most use of my time. If tasks have a day and time to be completed, then I tend to use my time more efficiently, and many times within the past week, I realize how much free time I have when I am organized.

5. It is better for me to focus on one task at a time until its completion. It’s okay to multitask and know when it is beneficial to multitask and when it is not. I always encourage my students to focus on what needs to be done now or has a timeline. If you have two projects, and one is due in November, and the other in January, don’t delay. Plan to complete the November task, especially if multitasking is not working.

6. It is important to make a to-do list and cross off as I go. Be consistent with scheduled activities, and I will be more efficient.

7. I do not label myself or generalize my actions. I do not like labels, and I believe people will think and act according to their label and get stuck.

8. I make time for the things I have an interest in (cooking and trying out new recipes, listening to music and being more proficient at playing the piano and guitar, sew, paint, make pottery, candles, and lip gloss/lipstick. Things will not get done unless I make them a priority. Continue to develop/explore me.

9. I have to live with the consequences of my behavior, and my consequences can directly or indirectly effect others… My days go a lot better when I have made time for myself.

10. I do not take myself too seriously. Continue to laugh!!

Posted in daily blog, smoke, Uncategorized

Smoke and what I remember

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When I was in nursing school back in 1996, I remember being shown two pair of lungs…one in which the individual was a smoker, and the other pair in which the individual was exposed to second hand smoke. After seeing the black spots and damage to the lungs, I vowed then to not smoke and to stay as far as I could from individuals who did smoke.

We all have the right to choose how we want to live our life, and I know that until the early 60’s, many individuals were not fully informed about the consequences of smoking (cancers, lung disease, heart disease, etc.).  Smoking was accepted by many as “the thing to do.”  We probably all have something we know we should stop or not even start doing.  So no judging here.  I do believe that our actions have a direct or indirect effect on others (i.e. second hand smoke).

When I was Student Nurse, at one of the hospitals I worked at, I got to experience firsthand the potential consequences of smoking. Even as a Registered Nurse, I took care of many individuals who were smokers and wish they were not, as well as those who still smoked regardless of what they knew about smoking and its consequences.  While I was a Student Nurse, I remember taking care of a lady in her early 60’s, whom I shall call Mrs. X.  Mrs. X was so limited on what she could do for herself.   She had been diagnosed with severe Chronic Obstructive Pulmonary Disease (COPD) which is a progressive lung disease.  Smoking is the primary cause of COPD.

It was heartbreaking to see Mrs. X become extremely exhausted after just washing her face. She wanted to do as much as she could for herself. Being present and witnessing how she struggled taking care of herself reinforced that I didn’t want to smoke, try to take care of myself the best way I knew how, and that I should be grateful for the things I could do for myself.  I didn’t judge Mrs. X.  I helped her that day and many more days after that one until she was discharged from the hospital.

Timika

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