Posted in purpose

Your Identity or Theirs

Live your life with the heart and passion that you have. Let no one give you an identity. You already have one.

Sincerely,

Timika

Posted in purpose

Is Parenting a Calling?

If I do not address disrespectful behaviors while our children are young, then I enable them to disrespect myself and others. The moment we let down our guard is the moment our child will think it is okay. I have learned to not assume that behavior will end in one day. I must be consistent in my actions and words to show them actions that edifies and destroys.

Parenting is a calling, and daily, we need to be there for our children. Corrupt behaviors do not start in adulthood. Often, we deal with adult behaviors that started in childhood. No parent is exempt, and every parent has tests. These tests are to make us a better person, and therefore, a better parent. We must have and show:

compassion (children need direction and purpose grounded in principles that help instead of hurting others)

humility (every one has tests to meet and hopefully transcend)

love (discipline according to our heart and not out of unhealed emotions)

patience (parenting is a lifelong endeavor)

understanding (we are all on a journey and experience life lessons).

Of course, there are more virtues that empower and strengthen us to meet and transcend our experiences.

Make this Life great and your Legacy, too! The generations to come depend on you.

Sincerely,

Timika

Posted in Motherhood, purpose

Choices

Sometimes, we may think our parents are being mean when they tell us the truth. Our mom, a single mom, knew the extent of her teaching. She did not force her life’s principles on us; she left it to us, many times, to choose the best route or solution for an issue.

I inform our children that I cannot make all of your life choices. “I can help you build your foundation and give you the resources and some tools to help you along the way.”

I let our children know that I am here for them, and I do not mind sharing my knowledge and wisdom. For the age appropriate situations, though, I encourage our children to weight their options, assess advantages and disadvantages, and be decisive.

We must help our children to assess the reasons behind their choices. By helping our children to understand their core and their state of emotions and feelings, we can help empower them to be their best. I did not write to push them….but to help them from the inside out.

If we do not help our children to see the power in choices and the possible consequences, who will?

How are you helping your children learn the power of choices?

Make this life great!

Timika

Posted in 2020, Guilt-free, Happy New Year 2020, purpose

Guilt-free 2020

achievement confident free freedom

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I do not have to be sad.

I do not have to hold on to anger, disappointment, and rage.

I do not have to get sick.

I do not have to treat my children like I was treated as a child.

I do not have to get a chronic preventable health condition such as diabetes, heart disease, or any others.

I do not have to do things that are against what I believe and know to be true.

I do not have to regret my past behaviors.

I do not have to wait on others to agree with me or support me in my dreams.

I do not have to feel bad that I have not exercised this year.

I do not have to feel bad that I have a high school diploma.

I do not have to feel bad that I did not graduate from high school.

I do not have to take rejections personally.

I do not need to be like my friends or parents.

I do not need to know everything to help my children to be their best.

I do not need to project my emotions and feelings onto others.

I do not need to have a certain lifestyle to live each day to the fullest.

I do not have to give into my fears.

I do not need the attention of others to feel like I belong.

I do not have to punish myself or self-sabotage my dreams or goals.

I do not have to excessively drink, eat, or exercise, use profanity, hurt, or belittle someone to feel good about myself.

I do not have to be in a relationship that does not honor who I am.

I do not have to be a chef to cook a hearty healthy meal for my children.

I do not have to lower my standards.

I do not have judge myself or others.

I do not have to be busy to feel important.

I do not have to subscribe to every newsletter or email on health and fitness.

I do not have to listen or watch things that do not honor my body, mind, and spirit.

I do not have to hide who I am and what I really like.

I do not have to give anything that I do not want to give.

I do not have to hide my natural gifts and talents for fear that I will be criticized, laughed at, or seen as not cool.

I do not have to be anything I do not want to be.  This is my life, and the choice is mine. I have everything I need to be who I need to be.

To Your Best Health & Life & Happy New Year!

 

Timika

 

Posted in children and education, Children and parenting, Diabetes Management, Don't give up, Exercise, Physical activity, purpose, The Pacific Coast Mom, transcend, Transformation

It is not too early to teach our kids to be Students of their Health.

The sooner we start teaching our children to be students of their health, the sooner you will see healthier habits.  Teach sustainability by your actions and words.

Check out my blog post and series on #Diathrive.

https://diathrive.com/blog/post/introduction-problem-foods

 

To Your Best Health and the Legacy you are leaving for generations!

 

Timika Chambers

Fuel Your Core, LLC