Posted in Children and parenting, fatherhood, Motherhood, purpose

Our Circumstances Do Not Define Us

Good morning Spiritual Beings!

Our circumstances do not dictate how we treat our children and others. We make a bold choice to act in love, peace, and understanding. We allow our children to see that life is a journey and lessons will be learned, we apologize quickly for our lessons learned, and help our children to see that they have a reason for being here.

Parenting is a calling & a journey to reach our highest self and help children to do the same; therefore, parenting is a win-win experience. Each day that we have breath, God entrusts us to do what is right regardless of our circumstances and how we feel.

Can you imagine the hard work that goes into making a brain, heart, organs, and tissues and embodying specific gifts and talents? God is a master storyteller. Our experiences are not in vain. You have the power to meet & transcend your life experiences.

If we are stupid, never amount to anything, a failure, and other false statements, then our Creator is stupid and without potential, as well. For, are we not made in God’s image (Genesis 1:26)?

May you know how powerful you are and stand in your power.

Make this life great—one person & one family at a time,

Commit to the Lord whatever you do, and He will establish your plans (Proverbs 16: 3).

Jesus said “Let the little children come to me, and do not hinder them. For the kingdom of heaven belongs such as these” (Matthew 19:14).

Timika

Posted in trust, Truth

Savor the doubt and frustration


Trust that you are on the path for your growth. 

Do you sometimes wonder if you are on the right path?

Well, I had a turning- point- moment in my journey this week. I had prepared to get some work done while out- of-state on a business trip with my current employer. I wanted to use my alone time wisely. I took all of the necessary papers and resources that I needed. Early morning and in the evening, I would work on my business

On Tuesday, my first day out-of-state, I was feeling pretty excited about being able to focus on my business. However, on Wednesday, I was feeling doubtful and discouraged.  I have been sleep-deprived for approximately 6 years. Since my pregnancy in 2011, I have not had a full night’s rest of sleep.  All I could think about was sleeping and how I might fail at entrepreneurship. I wanted to just get  underneath the covers- under the bed, if I could.   Yes…sleep deprivation sounded like a good excuse….I knew that I would later regret not achieving my goals for the week…at least most of them.

I was feeling discouraged and doubtful about my business and productivity. I started wondering if all of this work was worth it. Is it worth it to pursue entrepreneurship? Am I on the right track?  Then, I thought about Abraham Lincoln and a favorite quote of his … I am paraphrasing it now…decide what it is you want to do and know that it can be done….

I did not run away from the negative emotions/ feelings. I let myself feel the emotions for a while…I needed to know what I was up against. I do not need to waste time being in dreamland. My emotions/feelings are as real as they get. I also knew I could not stay in the same state too long……

I thought that the only way to get out of this slump of self-doubt is action…so I got busy and started on my to-do list.  The work will not get done unless we do it. 

Then, the next morning, my brother sent me a video to watch. The message was right on time. After watching the video, I felt encouraged and inspired. I did not want to give up. Why should I? 

It seems as though that all this week, little gifts of encouragement, empowerment, inspiration came in all direction and forms, even from my current employer. All businesses take risks….at some point in their lives, many of these business founders were doubtful and discouraged, but they did not give up. 

I feel like I have to move forward with my dream. There is no other way. Entrepreneurs take risks in some form…the risks I take will help me to be my best self and encourage my kids and others to do the same. 

I learned a lot this week about faith, integrity, and perseverance from past presidents, motivational leaders, and other entrepreneurs. I want to know deep in my bones that giving up is not an option. Grit is my middle name…( not really). So, what have I learned?

1. Do not be afraid of taking risks.

2. When we take risks, we open the door to possibilities.

3. Try to strategize your risks as much as possible.

4. Quiet time is essential to your purpose and vision. 

5. We all have doubts and moments of despair…According to our history, many great leaders, including Abraham Lincoln, Martin Luther King, Mother Teresa, my mom, my teacher, and others. 

6. Action is the best treatment for doubt and despair…..make a to-do list and follow it.

7. Do not give up!
Enjoy your day!

Timika

Posted in Bullying, personal development

Lesson 8: Don’t just be sorry..

If you are truly sorry for your behavior, then you will try not to do it anymore…whether it is:

1. Calling someone outside of his or her name….
2. Raising your voice at someone
3. Being late for an event that is important to someone else
4. Forgetting a birthday or anniversary and no known decrease in mental function
5. Turning in your homework past the deadline
6. Saying you were going to do something and you did not
7. Missing a scheduled call to discuss something
8. Hitting someone 
9. Returning something you borrowed at a much later date or not at all
10. Lying

Mother held us accountable when we would apologize for our behavior. “Try your best not to do it again” is what our mother would say. Saying you are sorry should mean something. Words meant something, but your actions meant more.

Timika

Posted in personal development

It is so easy to get caught up…Life can become such a blur

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Timika’s morning pep talk.

You have set goals. You planned. You were doing well until you saw and made a reason (or excuse) for you to stop–to stay up late with others,  to be entertained by T.V. and/or social media, to go to sleep without completing your goals, or not getting up at the time you said you would work on your project. You opted to do something “easier” or “more fun”. You opted to go to sleep.

You are not balancing your energy and time to be more effective and efficient. Your goals are starting to look like a blur, and you wonder do you have it in you to achieve your goals/dreams.

Life is controlling you, instead of you controlling your life.

Now, you are feeling guilty and thinking of stopping or not pursuing your goals.

Do you give up, or do you push forward?

How do you push forward?

You are alive, right? Do you have the mental and physical faculties to do whatever it is you want to do? If the answer is yes, then, it is not too late to change.

Condition yourself to think and believe that each day brings new opportunities and a chance for you to revise your strategy so that you may achieve your goals.

1. Reassess your goals. Are you doing it for you or someone else? What is your intention? What is the end result that you seek? Know that others have their own journey. Are you giving it your best try? How disciplined are you?

Trust and believe in yourself to accomplish what you said you would. Break your goal down into small parts. Use a calendar or accountability and reminder system.

2. Recommit to yourself and your goals regardless of what others are doing.
You will have to answer yourself. Do you want to reminisce about your successes and failures (to say at least you tried) or regret you did not live your life accordingly? Do you want to face the fact that you gave up and never saw how far your gifts and talents could take you?

Your commitment has to be more than just words.

3. Assess your strategy, and be honest. Do you have the right or effective strategy? Do you have gaps in your day that you could be more effective? Is your strategy realistic and too broad? Are you trying to do too many things at once?

4. Do it now. Don’t wait until the “right time”. It will more than likely never be the “right time”. You have to make time, Timika.

This is your mission. This is your journey.

Heal within. Your results will be your barometer.

Discipline=Freedom

Timika