A few years ago, our now eight-year-old son, Cam said that he wanted to be a chef after watching a video of a kid #chef. He had a short stent of fascination with cars and trucks, but never lost the urge to buy toy food. Since we have been in Tillamook, Cam’s library picks usually involve #cookbooks. Yesterday, on the Tillamook County Library bookmobile, Cayla grabbed the cookie cookbook. No surprise to me; she absolutely loves sweets.
I have reasons to make healthy sweets. Although, these books are older, usually, we can kind some satisfying and simple recipes. Being in the health care industry for over 21 years, I feel a consistent and growing responsibility to prepare healthy meals and snacks for my family. Our children take our lead in whatever we do and not just what we say.
How are you preparing for spring and summer meals to help avoid or limit temptation to splurge on unhealthy foods?
You are the one who deals with things that you let into your body, mind, and spirit. Some people are quick to tell you what you should and should not do. Some people think that it is okay to share inappropriate pictures and make unwelcome comments. We have a right to say “No. You can keep that. That’s your mess!” If something or someone does not resonate with you, stand up for yourself.
Your Health & Life depend on you, not your acquaintance, celebrity, friend, or neighbor.
You are the one who deals with the consequences of your choices.
If I do not address disrespectful behaviors while our children are young, then I enable them to disrespect myself and others. The moment we let down our guard is the moment our child will think it is okay. I have learned to not assume that behavior will end in one day. I must be consistent in my actions and words to show them actions that edifies and destroys.
Parenting is a calling, and daily, we need to be there for our children. Corrupt behaviors do not start in adulthood. Often, we deal with adult behaviors that started in childhood. No parent is exempt, and every parent has tests. These tests are to make us a better person, and therefore, a better parent. We must have and show:
compassion (children need direction and purpose grounded in principles that help instead of hurting others)
humility (every one has tests to meet and hopefully transcend)
love (discipline according to our heart and not out of unhealed emotions)
patience (parenting is a lifelong endeavor)
understanding (we are all on a journey and experience life lessons).
Of course, there are more virtues that empower and strengthen us to meet and transcend our experiences.
Make this Life great and your Legacy, too! The generations to come depend on you.
Sometimes, we may think our parents are being mean when they tell us the truth. Our mom, a single mom, knew the extent of her teaching. She did not force her life’s principles on us; she left it to us, many times, to choose the best route or solution for an issue.
I inform our children that I cannot make all of your life choices. “I can help you build your foundation and give you the resources and some tools to help you along the way.”
I let our children know that I am here for them, and I do not mind sharing my knowledge and wisdom. For the age appropriate situations, though, I encourage our children to weight their options, assess advantages and disadvantages, and be decisive.
We must help our children to assess the reasons behind their choices. By helping our children to understand their core and their state of emotions and feelings, we can help empower them to be their best. I did not write to push them….but to help them from the inside out.
If we do not help our children to see the power in choices and the possible consequences, who will?
How are you helping your children learn the power of choices?