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Trust

Trust

What do we truly have to lose if we trust in these statements:

*You are not a mistake.  You were born for reasons. Everyday you can be a positive influence to yourself and others.

*Your life experiences are not meant to break you; they are for your evolution.

*We have more things in common than we do different. The Human Anatomy is pretty much the same for all (except minor differences) and each organ performs a certain way (just like all hearts, the heart has a function of pumping blood to organs and tissues).   There are no specific heart bypass procedures for a specific race or culture.  When your heart stops beating, whether, black, white, or brown, it stops.

*Every person has a name and not the one you made up for them. The color of your skin, your spirituality or religion, your birthplace, your parents, your social status does not define you.  You define yourself..

*Change begins with you.

*You have what you need to be who you are meant to be.

*You have the power to change what is not working in your life.  Take time to reflect on what you want.

*Despite  what has happened to others with similar health conditions (diabetes, heart disease, stroke) you play a role in  being the healthiest you can be at any given time. Just because your grandmother had high blood pressure and died after having a stroke, does not mean that you will.  You now have the knowledge to change what you need to change to have a different outcome.

*You are never alone.  You will not be the first nor the last to go through what you are going through.  Reach out to a trusted individual (mentor, parent, sister, brother,etc) as needed for additional support.  Your life is worth it.

 

Please share your comments.

Timika

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How did I avoid an argument with my spouse?

Argument

I caught myself yesterday after speaking words that I knew would cause an argument. I was finishing up laundry from our recent vacation, and my spouse found more of his clothes that needed washing. I wanted to have laundry done by a certain time Friday morning, and I began feeling a little frustrated that there were more clothes that needed to be washed. If I had continued on the path I was on with feeling delayed and frustrated, and that I had all of the clothes that needed to be washed in the laudry room, and he did not, an argument with my spouse would have followed. I soon found out, after I decided to change my path, that I, too, had more clothes that needed to be washed.

An argument takes more than one person. I am in control of my thoughts and the words I speak. They can be words of love or words that come from anger, jealousy, frustration, or any other negative emotion/feeling. One of my favorite quotes by Napoleon Hill is “Direct your thoughts, control your emotions, and ordain your destiny.” So, I needed to change my thoughts, control my frustration, and pick a path in alignment with who I want to be.

Another quote that I was reminded on Friday is from the Book of Mathew, and it comes come :
Matthew 7: 4 &5 :How can you say to your brother, ‘Let me take the speck out of your eye,’ while there is still a beam in your own eye? You hypocrite! First take the beam out of your own eye, and then you will see clearly to remove the speck from your brother’s eye.

Besides checking to see what mood or state I am in before I speak, here are the steps I I used to avoid an argument with my spouse yesterday:

1. Removed myself from where were I was. I left out of the laundry room and decided to be still and realized that what I had said was not called for. I could clearly see what he was doing, so I did not need to ask the question.
So, go to another room that allows you to clear your mind and reduce the risk of saying something else to ignite the fire of an argument? Removing myself from the room helped me to think about what I just said and what to say next.

2. Assessed my intention for the words I spoke? Why did I just say what I said? I was trying to complete all of our laundry early Friday morning, so that I could enjoy the rest of the day and do other things. I felt like he was putting me off schedule. I played a part in being off schedule by not communicating properly my intentions. Never did I communicate to my spouse that I was doing laundry and what color clothes I was washing next. I actually like doing laundry and feel blessed that I can do it myself.

3. Thought about what my spouse was going through. I was not the only person trying to finish something that morning. So, I put myself in the other person’s shoes and started talking about what was bothering him.

4.Kept focused on my goals for how I want my life and my marriage to be. Choose by battles, wisely! I want to live a long healthy vibrant youthful life with the one I love.

Mika