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Mothers always have a choice

mama 2018

It is a great day to be alive. I am so thankful to be the mother of our beautiful two children. My journey started later than others and at the perfect time. I had my first child at the age of 36.
I remember being unsure about bringing children into the world because I was afraid of what could happen to them. I saw danger instead of possibilities.  I was not even sure I could have children, yet I always wanted a boy and a girl.
I do not like living in fear, and years ago, I realized that I could not change something without belief and faith in myself.  I am no longer afraid because I stand in the power of shaping our children into courageous, loving, and powerful, and strong beings who can make positive impacts throughout their journey. I can help shape how they take care of their body, feel about themselves, and how they face their life experiences.
I am so thankful for my mother, Thelma Jones. She decided to leave a relationship that was not working. Raising children in an abusive home was not the answer. With three kids under the age of 5, a suitcase, and 4,000 in her pocket, we traveled from Memphis Tennessee to Illinois by a Greyhound bus in search for a better life.
SMLXL

 

There are no regrets when you believe that life is for you. Our life experiences are to make us better and to help direct our paths.
I am forever grateful for the principles that our mother taught us. I continue to keep our mother’s principles close to my heart. When I was unsure of my abilities to be the mother I wanted to be, I thought of my mother.  She did it. Why can’t I?  Our mother’s principles brought me peace of mind. Being a mother of purpose is not always easy. It helps to have guiding principles to stay focused.
Here are 10 of our mother’s many principles:
1. Give from the heart and expect nothing in return.
2. Keep on trucking no matter what lies ahead
3. Be grateful for what you have
4. Be bold -Ask for what you want.
5. Live another day-You never know what the next day will bring
6. Take care of yourself-There is only one you
7. No excuses-Work from the truth
8. If you are sorry, then stop the behavior
9. Listen more and talk less
10. Break the Cycle-Change what is not working
What principles did your mother teach you?
To Your Best Health & Life!
Timika Chambers
Integrative Nutrition Health Coach

 

To Your Best Health & Life!

 

Timika

Posted in Columbus Mom, cooking, Daily blog, Don't give up, Exercise, Physical activity, Happiness, healing, health, Health conscious, life coach, mother's wisdom, Ohio mom, personal development, Positive mindset, purpose

Your body, mind, & spirit are involved

 

This is the day to plan & prepare for the week. Schedule an hour today to write down your goals and pack some snacks, schedule your recharging sessions, a & how you will maximize your body’s natural ability to maintain balance. Your body, mind, & spirit need you to be there for them as much as you need your body, mind, & spirit to be there for you.

What will you do this week for your body, mind, & spirit?

To Your Best Health & Life,

Your Health Coach

Timika

Posted in Columbus Mom, mother's wisdom, Motherhood, Ohio mom, Uncategorized

Too many times the outward approval of others becomes the goal of our actions instead of being true to ourselves. When we seek the approval of others, we are saying that we are not good enough, and that we need others to validate our worth. My mother would remind us that when you do something for another person, do not stay stuck there waiting on applauses, awards, or anything else. Do it and keep moving.

When we do things from the heart, we are not concerned about another’s reaction, even so much as a “thank you”. Our intentions are in alignment with a higher power and not for show or approval. Our satisfaction comes from the ability to give instead of receiving.

Thank you Mom!

Heal within

Timika

Posted in mother's wisdom

Mondays: Inspired by mom

“Appreciation is a wonderful thing. It makes what is excellent in others belong to us as well.”
Voltaire

I never wanted an illness or death to be the motivation for me to appreciate loved ones or do the things I know I should do. I knew at a very young age that we had a great mother.  Regardless of what she had been through, she chose to be there for her children in every way that she could.  After working long hours at a local store or any job that she had, she would make time to be present for events.  She would be there to support my brother at home basketball games. She would take us to lunch before working an 8 hour plus shift.  We would routinely go shopping (at Ventures or Grandpa’s) and even walk around Cahokia Mounds on Sundays.  I can still taste the sub sandwiches we used to get at Grandpa’s.

Our mother instinctively knew the importance of structure and routine.  Mother rarely made excuses, and she expected the same from her children. She did what she had to do to make sure we had a roof over our head, shoes on our feet, food to eat, clothes to wear, and beds to sleep in.

Mother took it upon herself to leave an unhealthy marriage for something better.  She knew that if she did not leave her current situation that something bad was going to happen. She would either be in jail or no longer around to care for us.  She wanted more, and although she did not know what the future held, she made a change.  She took a step into the unknown.

Take the first step in faith.  You don’t have to see the whole staircase, just take the first step- Martin Luther King

She was never shy about telling us her story; she wanted us to learn from her life lessons and pursue the life that we were meant to have.  She wanted us to have a better life.

I have tried to keep her life principles close to heart.  I have often said that it is not so much about the number of parents in the home, but more about the quality of parenting.  You can grow up in a home with the father or mother being physically there, but emotionally and socially absent.

She was never religious, and encouraged us to care more about the heart of a man than the religion or church someone belonged to. Although she kept a bible close, we never felt like she preached to us.  She was honest and told the truth, which was natural to her.  It was not about what was pleasing to our ears: her talks were meant to feed our Soul. 

Mother believes that we should do what we can to help others have a better life.  We must not continue the same cycle of negative behavior.  What good is that?

“I may have not had it, but I want my grandkids to have it”-Thelma Jones

My Monday blog posts will be dedicated to my mother.  I will share her life lessons and hope that I will continue to educate, empower, inspire, and positively transform my life and the life of others.

As always, please feel free to share your thoughts, including your life lessons.

Timika

Posted in Columbus Mom, mother's wisdom, Motherhood, Ohio mom, Transformation, Truth

Filthy and my priorities

Filthy

When others would tell me that their house was filthy because they have been so busy at work, I would wonder how could they function with a messy house, and then I remembered that everyone is not wired the same way. We all have our priorities. I have had some people to tell me that they function better with clutter. Again….we are wired differently,

I used to be obsessed with keeping a clean and organized house. It is frustrating to not be able to find something when I need it. Plus, cleaning up was and still is my release…my form of meditation. I equate a clean and organized house with a clear and focused mind. When everything else around me is in place, I feel in place. I used to allow myself to get distracted by clutter and would quickly stop what I was doing to go clean. This method was counterproductive…. There is more to life than just keeping a clean and organized home. Nowadays, I write more to help clear my mind instead of cleaning more.

Now, that I am a mother, organizing my time is a must. I do my best to avoid a filthy home; however, I am not as obsessed with keeping my home clean. Over the past year, I decided to not spend a great deal of my day cleaning up. So, there may be a few dirty dishes left in the sink overnight or toys left in the living room. I have learned to relax a bit when it comes to cleaning up; yet, I still have my limits. I am also better at organizing my time to make time for other things such as reading, writing etc. I have learned that I need balance in my life. Keeping a clean and organized home is still a priority, and so is enjoying my life and making time for loved ones and myself.

For procrastinators or students having problems focusing on a task, many educators, including myself, will encourage students to declutter their surroundings to help them focus better and complete their task. Typically, if your mind is on 20 different things, your actions will reflect your thoughts. If a student has one project on his or her desk, more than likely that’s what he or she will focus on. Decluttering is usually a good tip to help others focus and achieve their goals.

Timika

Posted in Columbus Mom, Daily blog, love, mother's wisdom, Ohio mom, Primp, Transformation

Primp: inside and out

Primp

Depending on what I have planned for the day may decide how much I primp. I have felt for some time, though, that although it is good to look your best, outside appearance is not the whole package nor does it guarantee that the inside will be just as beautiful or handsome.

Just because someone looks good on the outside does not mean they are at peace on the inside, no matter how much you wish the latter to be true. So, when you look in the mirror and style your hair, wash your face, and add all your favorite accessories, does your positive self-talk go beyond “I am beautiful”, or “I am handsome.” What else do you tell yourself?

What about things such as:
1. I am enough just the way I am.
2. I deserve to be treated with respect, including being called by my name and nothing else. I have a right to say no when I am feeling violated by another.
3. I deserve to further my education, whether it be reading books on my specialty, completing a college degree or certificate.
4. I am worthy of great things.
5. I have interests that I would like to pursue and not just do whatever other people are doing.
6. I am …..whatever qualities you would like to have (calm, compassionate, honest, truthful).

Primping should be more than how you look on the outside. What about some “primping” on the inside, too?

 

Timika

Posted in Hyperbole, Listen and learn, mother's wisdom, Motherhood, Ohio mom, Transformation, Truth, Wisdom

Hyperbole: Guilty!

Hyperbole

It is interesting that hyperbole is the daily word for today. I have been questioning the worth of hyperboles. Are they necessary? If so, then why?

This past Thursday, I was just sharing with a student how sleep deprived I felt that I was. I admitted that the last time I had some good sleep was before my son was born. As I was sharing that I, too, suffered from a lack of sleep, I questioned why am I agreeing with the need to just sleep my life away? Why am I using the phrase “I could sleep for a long time” when it is not true? Even when I worked nights, years ago, as a staff nurse at a local hospital, I could only sleep for 1-2 hours when I got home. Yes, I was tired, but I did not want to go to sleep during the day. That’s what nights were for. As you probably figured out, I did not work nights for long. There is a time for everything, and my body works well with its “master clock.”

If given the chance today, would I want to sleep my life away? The answer was and still is no, of course. I have so many things I still want to do, and I keep adding activities/events to my bucket list. Honestly, I have been trying to be more mindful of my thoughts and what I say. If I do not mean something, then why say it? It is a waste of energy and a waste of words, yet, I am sure I have used the phrase many times before, especially between the years of 2011-now.

Why do we feel the need to add excessive value to how we feel? With my statement of being tired, acknowledging that I was tired is one thing and to exaggerate is another. Let’s take another hyperbole. “I am so hungry, I can eat a horse.” Can I really? So, why exaggerate? Am I asking for the other person’s permission to go to sleep or to eat? What is my intention for using a hyperbole? To illicit compassion? Money? Food? love? Is it necessary to have others to empathize with me to take me seriously, or did I need the student to feel like she is not alone?

Sometimes when we are going through an ordeal, we think that we are the only one going through something. I usually tell my students they are not alone and can usually share a life changing story without getting to personal. I have to remember that even being quiet and just listening may be what the other person needs at that time especially instead of saying something I know is not true. Does the other person need to know how hungry I am or how sleepy I am? Not necessarily. Constantly feeling the need that one should quantify or quality statements for others to relate does not sound like a healthy habit. I need to change my ways.

I have been aware of another phrase for a very long time and this phrase is “say what you mean and mean what you say.” So, as we constantly evolve, we find out that some of the things we do, the words we say may conflict with something else we believe it or want to believe in. I need to be more true to the phrase “say what you mean and mean what you say” and stop saying things that are not true.

The more one says something, the more one tends to believe it. There is a known link between our beliefs and our actions (self-fulfilling prophecy). Again, as in the example above, I do not need to believe I am so tired. If anything, I need to believe that I am energetic and high on life.

I am guilty of using some hyperboles, and I confess. I need to stop using hyperboles, and just say what I mean, and mean what I say.
Timika
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