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Gratitude

Sometimes, I just wish time would stand still. It feels great to stand in the presence of beauty and peace…I can faintly hear children in the background laughing, and their joy brings peace to my soul.

How many of you have a gratitude journal or take time to voice or write about your blessings and what you are grateful for?  Many of us get so busy, including myself, and we may not take time to just breathe, relax, and be grateful for the many blessings seen and unseen ( not in a car accident, not diagnosed with cancer today, you had a chance to speak or see a loved  one today).  Nothing is promised to us…no life is promised. Before we lay our bodies down for rest tonight,speak or write at least one think you are grateful for.  I do believe that gratitude brings more blessings. I have witnessed more blessings in my life when I am more grateful for life and it’s blessings than complaining about what I do not have or what didn’t ” work out the way I wanted it to.”
With gratitude, 

Mika

Posted in Bullying, children and education, Children and parenting, Gratitude, Homeschool, Listen and learn, love, mother's wisdom, Ohio mom, Truth, Wisdom

Homeschool versus Public or Private school?

The thought has  been popping up every now and then and, of course, more recently now that our oldest will be 5 this month, September, 22. I have been trying to introduce our son and daughter to the fundamentals (alphabets, reading, math -our son loves subtraction, art, science, and history. I want our children to be well-educated about different races/cultures.  My background is nursing; and  I love learning and educating, empowering, and inspiring others.  I remember teaching my stuffed animals when I was a young girl living in Eagle Park, Illinois.  On one occasion, I read and educated them on Bible scriptures.  in every role I have ever had, I understood the power of accurate and timely education as well as holistic care.  I am grateful for the education I had at Venice Elementary and Venice High School, a public school  I know that many schools stick to a rigorous schedule and provide education that is mostly from recommended textbooks.    Until my 20’s, I did not realize how much history I was not aware of  and had not  been taught-Hispanic, African American,etc. I do not blame it on the education I received as a young girl/teenager, nor do I blame the lack of knowledge on my parents.  My eyes are a bit open, of course, to our nation’s history and the contributions many have made from a variety of different cultures/races/religions.   I do  believe that children can learn in many different settings, and that the setting does not necessarily need to be in a school sitting at a desk.  There is so much to learn outside a building and so many opportunities for creative learning.

I am in awe every time I look at my children as I try to hold on to those infancy and toddler years.  Not only do I have thousands of pictures on CD, in print, and stored in my camera, I also try to maintain this photographic memory (yes…I am quite a visual person). I am so thankful of the opportunity to have a boy and a girl. .I enjoy learning about human behavoior and the wonderful body that we have (brain, heart, spleen, kidneys, and how they function to keep us alive).   I am amazed and more in awe with the words they say and the things they do.  Maybe, a part of me want to homeschool  and be more creative wiith providing education to our children and watching our  children learn, adopt habits of their own, and grow.

My heart goes out to those who have lost their children due to evil acts.  I find it very hard to wrap my head around how some individuals can take the innocent lives of children. It is very sad to think about such acts (columbine shootings  and Sandy Hook elementary shooting.  Tears are dropping from my eyes as I think and write about such events.  I have discussed homeschooling with many parents who are homeschooling their children, and one common reason they are homeschooling is to help prevent bullying.  Bullying, online and in person, has wrecked many homes and taken many lives of individuals….another tear dropping subject.

I admit that I am fearful of my children going to school outside the home; however, I do not want fear to be what drives me in making choices for their education and well being.  I want our children to have a well-wounded education and to be able to interact with others in a respectful way.  I look at the flexibility and independence that home schooling offers, and  I know a few parents who are actually homeschooling and love it (even my fav Food Network Star Ree Drummond/The Pioneer Woman).  I can see myself homeshooling and if  we decide to send our children to public school, see myself picking up the children from school, too.  Needless to say I am a bit torn about the subject matter.  I like to make informed decisions as much as possible, and do not want to rush at making a very important  decision that will help set the pace for the rest of their lives.  .  .

 

Any input is well appreciated.

 

  1.  What schools are the best in any given state?  Which websites has the most up-to- date and accurate information about schools? Which schools will protect our  children from bullying?  Treat them equally and fairly?-We have done some research over the years and look at ratings. However, I do not think ratings give you a full picture of the school and their quality education?
  2. How to organize supplies?  I currently collect material -Deals, online homeschooling newsletters/facebook, subscribed to ABC mouse on both Galaxies for kids—I feel like I am not quite there and more time needs to be spent on reviewing uptodate information.  Where do you keep your supplies and are they organized for each day of the week?
  3. How to organize time for homeschooling and balance my time with other obligations/desires?   I think mornings may be better for the kids, but feel like I need to have “school time” more than once a day-maybe around 4-5pm after snack.  Any methods work best?

Mika

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Resentment

“When you hold resentment toward another, you are bound to that person or condition by an emotional link that is stronger than steel.  Forgiveness is the only way to dissolve that link and get free.” -Catherine Ponder

When I ponder the first part of the quote above” you are bound to that person or condition by an emotional link that is stronger than steel” and individuals I perceived to have wronged me , there isn’t anyone I really want to be that close to for an extended period of time.  I must admit that I used to hold grudges for long periods of time, but the more I realized how I was hurting myself and blocking my gifts/blessings, the more I began to let go.  I began to see that holding grudges was a waste of time….a waste of my time.  My strongest desire is to be me…my highest self and explore who I am and how I fit into this world….I  want to continue to grow and unfold into who I am destined to be. Right now, unnecessary baggage can only get in the way, and I have enought to deal with in my life.

If you  think of an event or someone you perceived has wronged you often (mornings, evenings, when things go wrong), you have a problem.  If you say that you hate this person and what they stand for and find yourself repeating words in the same tone /manner and start acting like them or better yet, someone tells you , “hey, you just reminded me of……(that person you say you despise), then you have a really really BIG problem.  Your focus has become the other person and what they did or said to you….No one deserves that much of my time…Trust me….they are probably not thinking of you that often…

As you probably noticed, I used the words perceive or perceived
wrong doing.  It has always and will be always my decision and your decision on how we interpret what someone says  or does.  In any given situation,  I can choose to interpret that person or event as the world is conspiring against me or choose to listen to the message and not get so caught up in the messenger and how the message was presented.  I can choose to see the good in any situation and choose how I want to respond.  Even if I respond by saying something negative at first, I can reflect on my response, and learn from it.  I can then ask myself why did I respond that way and what could I have done differently? Even if that other person meant to hurt you….remember that “As for you, you meant evil against me, but God meant it for good in order to bring about this present result, to preserve many people alive.”  Gensis 50:20

After years of hearing and reading about the  the importance of forgiveness,  I am getting better at not holding grudges and understanding why forgiveness is for me and not the other person.  When you are constantly looking back and thinking about an event or thinking of someone who you perceived has done you wrong, you are wasting time if you are brewing in negativity, resentment, and revenge.   Looking back in the past at perceived negative events can cause you to miss blessings and your next steps in making your dreams and goals come true.  You are not fully present, and can literally trip over and miss your next big move.  Your brain is not focused on the now, and you are missing important keys to understanding yourself and living your best life.

Being a nurse and reflecting on our wonderful body and its response to stress and negativity, we are doing more harm to our body when we are holding on to grudges and resenting others.  Almost every known condition and rare condition there is, is somehow related to stress we put on our body…including emotional/mental stress.

I just finished reading Success through a Postive Mental Attitude by  Napoleon Hill . What a great book!  It was easy to read with great examples on how to apply the principles discussed in the book.  I came across lots of great quotes, and I absolutely love the quote “Direct your thoughts, control our emotions, and ordain our destiny.  My mother would always say what’s done is done. Move on.  If you do not move on with your life now, when will you move?  It’s a waste of energy and time to hold on to grudges and resent others. We all have our limited time here on earth.  What are you doing with that time….carrying someone else’s baggage, thinking about how you can get someone else back?

Let’s heal and life our best life!

Timika